The little black romper

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I’m the kind of gal who is, alas, more at ease in a pair of trousers than a dress or a skirt. Whenever I don one of my dresses, no matter how pretty it is, I can’t help but feel completely self-conscious and not like myself at all. Hence it more often than not ends up languishing in my closet. It’s a shame because I happen to have a penchant for lovely dresses and can’t help myself from purchasing one at times, wishfully thinking that I’d wear it with panache one day. Admittedly, I suppose it’s largely because of my vanity that I really loathe how my legs look like in a dress. Truth be told, I guess I haven’t genuinely accepted or got used to the transformation from a childish body to a more developed, feminine figure. I’m still young and completely aware of the fact that I’ll be facing lots of bodily changes down the road. Everything from pregnancy to a sudden weight gain thanks to my persistent sweet tooth or extreme binge eating – there, I just let the cat out of the bag –, and so on. Come to think of it, I’ve avoided talking about body-related issues in terms of clothing on my blog for as long as possible, as it’s quite a sensitive topic, not to mention that it’s difficult to acknowledge loudly that you have a twisted body image.

Anyway, I wasn’t supposed to broach this matter today but merely pop a few words about rompers. They might be a great alternative to dresses for girls like me. I love jumpsuits and I think I pull them off pretty well. Now that winter is approaching, a long-legged romper that stops just above the ankle is the perfect solution. I don’t feel anywhere near self-conscious when wearing them, which is cool considering that a romper isn’t exactly a “normal” garment to wear. Oh well, when you know that something just works for you…. I really like this one from Christian Wijnants. It’s super elegant and still looks like a dress. Unfortunately, it’s way out of my league. But I want it! It’s the perfect LBR, haha.

20 thoughts on “The little black romper

  1. I admire you for opening up about your body struggles, and even more so for not letting your body image deter you from wearing beautiful clothes. The Wijnants romper is beautiful indeed. Hopefully you can find something similar in a more affordable price range, without having to sacrifice any of the quality!

  2. Super godt at du overhovedet kan indrømme at der er noget galt med dit kropsbillede! Jeg giver dig fuldstændig ret i, at det helt klart vil være en god ide med sådan en romeper. Det giver ikke megen mening at forsøge at tvinge sig selv ned i en kjole, når man har det som du beskriver. Især ikke når man kan finde alternativer som den dér. (Giver det overhoved mening at skrive på dansk til en nordmand???)

  3. Wow a gorgeous black romper indeed! And yes definitely out of my price range, too! What are the chances of this item going on sale?? Lol. I started a new job and the attire is all-black. My closet it mostly grey! So… time to shop, ey!

    Thank you for sharing about your body image issues, even if only briefly. So many men and women struggle with how they perceive their body these days but yet it’s so hard to be open about it. So it’s admirable for you to mention it at all. *Hugs*

  4. I’ve been searching for the perfect black romper FOR YEARS!! Sometimes I come close, but there’s always something small that keeps it from being perfect. I like the cut of this one, for example:

    http://totokaelo.com/store/products/wood-wood/fw12/panzy-jumpsuit/black

    but wish it were sleeveless and had a scoopneck instead of a v-neck.

    And this one is AMAZING cut-wise:

    http://foundersandfollowers.com/shop/designers/bodkin/twister-jumpsuit.html

    – if only it came in black! (I almost bought it anyway but my size was sold out).

    The one you posted is lovely. Maybe I’ll find someone to make me a custom one.

  5. How fun! And yes, I think it’s great that you’re acknowledging and opening up about your body issues. So relevant to fashion, and yet we so rarely talk about them on our blogs. I personally almost never wear a skirt or a dress (unless it’s a maxi), and I used to fight against those feelings until I realized, that’s ok. It’s ok to have hangups, and dress in what makes you feel comfortable, as long as you’re aware that they’re hangups, and not necessarily objective truth. And once in a while I do put on a little dress and tell myself I look fine, but it does take a lot of effort and willpower for me. I think it’s great you’ve opened up this conversation, you always manage to get some good ones started here.

    http://nomadic-d.blogspot.com/

    • “It’s ok to have hangups, and dress in what makes you feel comfortable, as long as you’re aware that they’re hangups, and not necessarily objective truth. And once in a while I do put on a little dress and tell myself I look fine, but it does take a lot of effort and willpower for me.” – that is so true! I totally ignored the fact that I feel self-conscious about my legs this summer and wore shorts and short rompers, but I just can’t seem to work the dresses. I’m just hoping that the day when I no longer care is not far away.

  6. I feel the exact same way. I do not feel comfortable in dresses at all, only maybe on hot summer nights, but even then I’d prefer shorts. My solution so far was wearing nice going-out tops with skinny jeans when all of my girlfriends wore a dress to the club, but I might reconsider the romper again. I saw a really pretty one at Vanessa Bruno. By the way I think Gwyneth Paltrow rocks the LBR.

  7. That romper looks amazing!
    I know exactly what you mean. I know my body image ideals are different from my friends’ ideals, and I often feel that it’s not a very good thing, but I think it’s one of the things that comes with inevitably comes with following fashion.

  8. Thank you for such an honest post. I hope that those struggles get easier as you get older. I definitely feel better about myself now that I am in my thirties.
    And that romper is gorgeous. I have a jumpsuit from Maje which is a wonderful alternative to my dresses and so comfortable.
    Hugs, a xx

  9. I second Nomadic D’s mention of hangups, and I find your honesty here is very commandable.

    On a more, erm, silly note, I have a styling question. I find the romper above very pretty, but what kind of socks would you wear with it, especially if it’s meant more for the winter? I found a pair of nice, slightly cropped trousers only to realize it’s 1) too cold now to wear them barefoot, and 2) I can’t stand having a gap between my socks and the hem of the trousers when I sit down. So I’ve been wearing high school knee-high socks, but I’d really like to hear your take on this.

    • Thank you for the kind comment. I don’t think I would wear the romper with socks at all or on a daily basis. I thought it would be a great alternative to dresses for parties, evenings and such. This romper is a bit too dressy for everyday wear anyway. But you do have a point though, because if I were to wear this particular romper, I would have to walk from my place to the party and it’s freezing cold in my country, so I should wear it with black tights. I hear you regarding having a gap between the socks and them of the trousers.

  10. It is hard to open up about body issues, I find that a lot of people don’t understand where You are coming from when you do discuss it. I often find people tell me that I am just being stupid/attention seeking, which of course isn’t the most helpful way to deal with the topic. I think it takes a long time to gain acceptance of ones body. I find I am very self conscious in dresses despite owning a few. I try to persist with wearing them but most days I do find myself in my slim fit jeans.

    Joan. :)

  11. I find your honesty refreshing. I take a peek now and then at glamorous blogs but they’re so far removed from my reality that I can’t relate to the clothes at all. I still struggle with my body image but I’ve learned enough to hide my flaws. Well, I try :P I was rake thin up until my 20s and then the weight started to pile on if I’m not careful.

    I can’t say I’m a fan of romper suits. I find going to the loo a pain when I’ve got to practically undress.

    p.s. I’d gladly swap bodies with you!

  12. Hei

    jeg skjønner åssen du har det. er jo så mange flotte kjoler der ute. også tar du dem på,og nei det føles bare litt feil. og joda det er litt vanskelig å akseptere sine kropplige laster fra tid til annen.
    Men rompere er jo ett flott alternativ.
    Har en,elsker den.

    selv om jeg ønsker meg en mere fransk eleganse i både kjolevalg og klesstil generelt. Har du noen sikkelig gode tips.selv er jeg mest jeans og skjorte jente/kvinne. hva er det lurt å ha i skapet. jobber med the minimal closeth.
    tips taes med takk!

  13. The internet LOVES cats, so you’re quite safe unbagging them. Really, though, you help a lot of girls with your honesty – it’s nice to know that you, also, have flaws and issues – intimidating enough as you are with your impeccable taste. And I’m glad you’re not being tabloidy or cutesy about it, either.

  14. Thank you for such an honest post. It’s refreshing to just be human sometimes. With all of the idiosyncrasies, hangups, sensitivities that we all have. You’re allowed! It’s not easy to speak about such a sensitive topic- so I really appreciate that you were able to do it in such an eloquent way. I hope it gets easier…

    The romper is unexpectedly elegant and a fresh way to do evening, I think.

    Big hug from NYC!

  15. Oh Fleurette! In this day and age, body issues are the norm for most women. Everyone has their own set of burdens when it comes to food and body shape.

    At your age I never showed off my legs either, and looking back at my photos from then, I always wonder why I was hiding them. I overexercised and starved myself to try and get rid of “problem areas”, but I always kept the goalposts moving, so even at my skinniest I still obsessed about my legs and the dreaded “armpit fat” that kept me in baggy jeans and t-shirts even on 40 degree summer days. Ten years later I’ve got cellulite on the backs of my thighs and fat around my knees, but I don’t let it stop me – now, life seems much too short not to wear what I want.

    I don’t want to sound patronizing here. Truth is, I needed that entire decade to learn how to live with my body. It’s a journey. The most important thing is to be kind to yourself… neither your mind nor your body will ever be perfect. Hangups and imperfect legs will always be with us, but we can live with both.

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