Wishing you and your loved ones a happy new year! Hope you’ve had a wonderful festive break before that horrendous transition back to the daily grind. I must have jinxed myself as new year’s eve wasn’t at all legendary, but I guess it was faith telling me that 2012 will be a somewhat fulfilling year, knock on wood. I don’t share much about myself or my personal life on my blog, but to recap fall 2011 in a nutshell; I dropped out of university, wasted away four months of my life doing nada, and at some point it felt like my life had fallen apart, hence the lack of posts despite the time off. And after a year of debauchery and decadence at the school of hard knocks, I’ve finally figured out what I want to pursue in my life, and I really cannot wait to start devoting energy towards what matters to me. And I cannot wait to feel empowered for a change. As of next week, I’m going back to education.
And although my schedule and workload is likely to turn me into a hermit, I’ve made a few new year’s resolutions for my more and less dead-end blog. Basically, I ought to get back into the bloggy swing of things and run a healthy posting routine. Blogging is going to be a fun activity when school is kicking off, because when I need a break out of calculus and Newton’s laws of gravity a weekly dose of frivolity will only do me good. So, will I manage at least one post a week?
Thank you so much for your continued readership. My blog hit 2000 followers on bloglovin just before 2011 drew to a close, which is just mind-boggling. Anyhow, I can’t wait to get the show on the road! Here’s to a legendary apocalypse!
Hi Fleurette, although you say that you wasted 4 months of your life, I think that the key sentence in your post is “I finally know what I want to pursue in my life…”. Unlike me, you have made this realisation at a young age… for this year will mark the 15th wasted year of my life! How I wish I could go back to my late teens or early 20s and drop out of University and to instead really discover where my heart is at that young age. I’m only learning these things now and some days I feel like it may be too late.
I am really happy to read that you will try blogging more this year, I really enjoy reading your blog. Happy New Year and all the best to you.
It’s a bit of a paradox, isn’t it? I think I’ve been stuck in this “eternal” pressure of doing something meaningful in life at the very early stage – taking an extra year at high school due to illness and not doing anything for a whole semester didn’t empower me at all.. and even though it’s just 4 months, it felt like an eternity. Thanks for the comment, I look forward to continue reading your blog in 2012!
Hi fleurette!
As “catsssaymeow” i don’t think you’ve wasted your life either. The 4 months wasn’t wasting, it was more your way to finally knowing what you want to do (and i try to say this, without sounding like your psycologist/therapist!).
Anyhow, I am so happy that you’re back and i absolutely can’t wait to get my weekly, or daily?, deadfleurette-shot, once again!
Thank you for always being helpful, both in the comment area, but also on Formspring.me etc.
You go girl!
All the best and a happy new yer from
Kristian
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Happy new year, Fleurette! As the other commentors have said, taking 4 months to figure things out is definitely not time wasted. Now you can go forth with a new sense of conviction! I certainly wish that I had taken more time to think things through before beginning grad school. Now, I feel like I’m stuck on this path–too far along to quit yet with no clear end in sight. Best of luck to you!!! xoxox
Education, such a wonderful choice. My sister quit her job last year as a management consultant and is now obtaining her master’s in education at colombia in nyc. she could not be happier. Congratulations to you, and for what it’s worth, i think you’ll be an excellent teacher.
Sounds great! Don’t worry; although I never dropped out of school I didn’t figure out what I really wanted to do until I finished my masters degree right after college :) So now, I’m going back to school again for a little certificate which is going to be hard work but totally fun and enlightening since that’s what I’m in it. And I think it’ll be the same for you. Good luck Fleurette! Just stick with it because I promise you in the end you can’t believe how fast it actually went and you’ll be glad you did it.
It is good to have you back Fleurette. It sounds like your 2012 is going to be amazing :)
For the past three years I have been at University studying English. This spring I’m applying to law school. Sure I could have realised earlier that I want to go there, but then I wouldn’t have gotten the chance to also study, English and I wouldn’t have met my boyfriend (who started studying English at the same time as me and switched to law school last year, heh).
I will be quite busy with my English courses this spring as I want to complete a BA Degree in that. And I’ll be superbusy once I start reading for the entrance examination. Plus I decided to read more literature this year and spend my time more wisely in general. I have quit reading the fashion blogs I used to read that do nothing for me and I am down to maybe 5 blogs I still read. I realised that these blogs I now read update maybe every other day or less often. The blogs I used to read were updated at least everyday, some even 2-4 times per day! As much as I love your posts, I also love knowing that you have a life outside this blog and that you do all sorts of other things when you are not blogging.
Happy new year! I’m happy to hear that you figured out what you wanted. It’s an exhausting journey that I keep coming back to. I’m sure it’s refreshing to have it planned out. I look forward to your weekly posts, but hopefully you don’t become too overwhelmed. If you do, take a break. We will all understand!
Som en av dine faste lesere fra starten av, ser jeg frem til å følge deg i 2012 også! Klesskapet mitt ser luftig og fint ut nå, haha.
Og apropos utdanning, så er ikke 4 mnd bortkasta, når det er snakk om framtida de. Jeg går siste året på vgs nå, og er forvirra selv. Det er så (altfor) mye å velge i, men samtidig er presset etter å være vellykka stort.
Happy new year Fleurette! As others above have mentioned, I don’t think those four months were really a waste of time. I did pretty much the same thing when I first started university: I attended classes for two weeks, dropped out, and returned the following January in a new university in another program. Had I not dropped out, I would not have had the guts to do what I really wanted to do, which is to study English lit. at an English-speaking university (French being my first language). I wish you the best of luck in all your projects this year, esp. going back to school!
Hey, glad to know you are back;). Good luck in your studies, if it’s not a secret, what are you studying? If I am recalling right, in one of your posts you had mentioned you wanted to pursue doctor’s career? Or am I wrong;)? Anyways, as a student to student I wish you good luck, patience and most amazing studying years! xoxo
Thanks! No, you’re not wrong at all. I’m going to get some of my grades up and take scientific subjects so that I can apply for medical school in a few years. I don’t meet the requirements for med school in Norway yet!
Happy new year! I can’t wait to read more posts on your blog :) What are you studying now?
Happy New Year, Fleurette. Hope that everything pans out for you this year in ways you’ve never expected. :) All my best!
Happy new year too ! And we all wait for new posts and inspirations :)
The other commenters have said what I was going to say. You didn’t “waste” time and at least it wasn’t *years*! Are you going into music then? I love your blog because of your taste in fashion and purchasing smarts, but I also play piano so I am always interested in your musical mentions. I, too, love Beethoven sonatas! Good luck.
No, I’m not going into music, I wish so but I have to be realistic and choose wise.. there are tons of things I want to do in life, I even considered becoming a graphic designer or art director a month ago, but I’ve found out that I want to study anything related to science of medicine.
I have to agree: the 4 months you’ve spent contemplating what you want to do with your life is no time wasted (although it may feel so). Take it from someone who graduated from college and got the big corporate job only to find myself at home for 2 years figuring out what my next move is – it’s tough! I cannot wait for your upcoming posts.
Glad to hear that you have found a new direction, and that we will hopefully hear lots more from you! Congratulations!
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Thanks for the comments. I guess that 4 months felt like an eternity, so thanks for the support and uplifting words! I just wished that I did something more reasonable, like taking an extra job, reading more, or prepare for the classes I’m taking this semester. :)
4 months is not bad at all, trust me it is better than having a quarter life or mid life crisis after years of stagnation. You’re still young and it’s best to fix your mistakes sooner rather than later. Either way I’m glad to hear you’re going back to school.
Happy 2012!
You know….people compare themselves endlessly to each other to figure out where they fit in the spectrum of life. On one hand it pushes you to do things but it can make you feel as though you aren’t accomplishing anything in comparison. I think everyone (especially young people) goes through a phase where they have no idea what they’re doing and questioning everything in their life and having self-doubts to the point you’re catatonic because you don’t want to make the any decision.
I’m glad to hear you are trying to make some commitments. I was good and lost for three years and I feel so far behind while my friends seem to be going forth with school and such but putting my life back in order after a period of self questioning makes me more focused and I will have some sort of idea of where I want to end up. I think my instincts are better and I will try to trust them more.
Yes to all of this.
I am also going back into education next week after dropping out of university a year ago! It was a scary decision to make at 19, but now my life is taking a whole new direction and one I actually want to take. Good luck in your studies and I hope you have a lovely new year!
Happy New Year to you lovely!
Ah, I’ve done that career soul-searching too. I hope all your hopes for the new path turn out exactly as you desire, and wishing you every success for your studies this year.
Briony xx
I dropped out of uni too, and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. Good luck!
Hi, Fleurette. Just dropping in late to the party to say hello and am glad to hear that you feel more direction. Happy New Year!
Happy New Year Fleurette! I hope 2012 is a vast improvement to 2011 for you!
Enjoy the laws of motion, matrices and differentiation. I only like the second two, physics is a bit of a killer for me. :D All the best with your studies, I am sure it will be challenging yet satisfying. More satisfying is knowing where you want to head in life. :)
If you think school is hard now, then you just wait until med school. You will fail a lot of your exams. It is difficult and merciless. And if you think you’re doing it to help other people, then that’s fine. As long as you realise that you aren’t going to help a single person for the next 10 years. I’m just saying that you should think it through very thoroughly (of course getting good grades had never hurt anyone, heh). It’s not all suddenly going to make sense, you’re gonna wake up miserable most days. If you can stand it, then go for it.
If I were to give up all of my dreams because of comments like yours, then that would be miserable, non? Just because you may have failed some of your exams doesn’t necessarily mean that I will?! Life is hard, education is hard… It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. If med school was that easy, we’d have an abundance of perhaps incompetent physicians in the world. I beg your pardon, but I’m totally ignoring your message, as I choose encouragement over discouragement. ;)
Honey, all of us fail our exams. Every single one of us will fail one or more exams. You will too. If you think education in general is hard…well you aint seen nothing yet, as they say. You do say that you’re ignoring my post (you spend quite a lot of words on that), but just think it over.
You’re completely mistaken. Ignoring as in I won’t take you at your word. At all. Do you get it? and please don’t call a stranger “honey” because that’s so condescending and rude – shows your lack of manners and respect.
And don’t you lecture me on education being hard blablabla. You know nothing about me, it’s so funny. For crying out loud, how stupid can one be to think that med school is easypeasy? And yes education is hard regardless of what you study, unless you’re Einstein maybe.
…and as you might have guessed, I’m a med student ;)
Sometimes you need a period of frivolous decadance before you realise/ get the drive to get things in order. And sometimes it takes a fall to add fuel to the fire if that makes any sense (err). Really like you blog! So glad I discovered it :)
I love reading your blog, and I’m so happy for you that you found out what you want.
Beautiful shirt!
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Aw! I’m glad that you took some time off to figure out what you want to do. Science is amazing, I sometimes still wish I’d done biology or agriculture instead of urban design! Good luck with your new path, I’ll definitely check your blog weekly for more style inspiration.
Congrats on finding out what you truly love to do. And kudos for you for dropping out of uni to go look for it because that takes major guts. As of right now I am still on the fence for a lot of things but one thing I know for sure is that I don’t know if I can handle not having school and really REALLY trying hard to search for my one true calling in life (so melodramatic I know). I look forward to all your new posts for 2012 :D
A cousin of mine finished med school top of the year, didn’t fail a single exam, had a social life, did an internship abroad, got married and had a baby during her schooling and is now working at a hospital. Oh, and she’s not Einstein, just very ambitious, hard-working and super-organised. So, it is possible. Waking up miserable usually means that you’re going the wrong way and it’s going to be worse (says a person who quit architecture after 2.5 years to study computer science and is now a happy programmer) :-)
Have you considered studying abroad? It’s sometimes easier to pass the entry exams, the university routine and later requirements are the same everywhere.
Exactly. I know many people who are exactly the same :) None of the doctors in my family failed a single exam, so it’s not true that “everybody fails”. Yes, I have considered studying abroad, but I have a dying mother and I want to be around her for as long as possible. Though I also really love my city. Oslo is a great city!
I understand your reasons :-) I wish your Mom a lot of health!
Best of luck with the school! I have now two years in a row turned down university places, and this year I really really want to start getting a degree, now lets just hope I get in..